Separation Anxiety: The Forgotten Stepchild We Can No Longer Ignore

Separation Anxiety: The Forgotten Stepchild We Can No Longer Ignore

Each morning when I fire up my computer, the eager ding of incoming emails greets me and I know to expect at least one new inquiry — if not three or four — from potential separation anxiety clients. This particular morning is no different. As I read through the various emails, I find the dogs the writers describe to be vastly nuanced in their behavioral displays, yet a commonality runs thick through the missives: anxiety, panic, fear. Contained within each email is another common thread: a desperate plea for help from each dog’s guardian.

This morning’s first new potential client is Sedona, and I ponder what the path to success will look like as I work with her and her guardian, Barbara. Sedona is a healthy 3-year-old Rottweiler-Labrador cross who has been in her home for six months. During that time, she has destroyed several crates. After Sedona broke several teeth on the crate doors, her guardian deemed crates unsafe and left her free to roam the house. Not surprisingly, Sedona moved on to destroy door frames, carpet, window moldings, a few doorknobs and the occasional piece of expensive furniture. Neighbors report that she howls and barks almost nonstop. Barbara doesn’t think Sedona has potty accidents when left alone, but she is confused, too, because she regularly finds somewhat large, clear, odorless wet spots near the entrance when she returns after any appreciable duration. I suspect Sedona is salivating profusely (I have seen this behavior numerous times). Sedona is like so many of the client dogs whose stories come across my desk, some more severe in their behavioral display and some less so, but all rooted in the same panic disorder.

Many practitioners would read this email about Sedona and cringe, assuming hers is a case unlikely to have a good outcome. To me, Sedona’s is a typical case of anxiety and needs to be addressed with the same foundational principles and modalities with which I address all cases. I tend to not be unnerved by these cases — or at least far less than some trainers might be — because I know something very important: For the majority of dogs with separation anxiety, there really is hope.

The Good News

Separation anxiety is treatable, with great potential for successful resolution, whether you’re dealing with a severe case like Sedona’s or simply a mildly whimpering dog. After 14 years of working with separation anxiety dogs and their guardians, I have learned a lot. Some lessons I earned the hard way, through mistakes, but all were valuable. Across those years and hundreds of clients, I have learned that the basic treatment principles you need are already in your trainer’s bag of tools; you just need to dust them off and apply them in a particular manner and with particular care, patience, and tenacity.

This article is a beginning point to introduce you not to a new-fangled way of treating separation anxiety but, rather, to a systematic way of breaking down the treatment for both practitioner and client to achieve real results.

Results Speak

Fast-forward a bit. That email from Sedona’s mom is a real email I received several months ago. After my initial phone call with Barbara, we started on a separation anxiety protocol right away. We had our work cut out for us. The protocol began, as many do, with getting the dog to be comfortable with mere milliseconds of alone-time. Initially, Sedona was worried as Barbara approached the door and began to step out, but with enough repetition, she began to get bored with all the approaching and returning. Whereas at first Sedona would react with a look of “Uh-oh!” as Barbara approached the door to leave, now her reaction changed to ho-hum because Barbara would always return a mere

moment later. Once we achieved that level of success, we were able to build on this “absence game” in small increments. I’ll be honest: It was very slow going, and many times Barbara was exasperated. My job, however, is to keep clients motivated throughout the process, the same way a personal trainer at the gym keeps you going after your New Year’s resolution motivation has run dry. We plugged along. Eventually, seconds became minutes, minutes turned into half an hour, and Barbara’s motivation took on a life of its own as she began to realize this approach could really work. That first half hour became an hour, then ultimately turned into a normal day of leaving Sedona home alone when Barbara went to work.

Sounds too simple, doesn’t it? Indeed it does, because in some ways separation anxiety is genuinely a very simple behavior to work with; it just happens to be a particularly difficult one. The difficulty lies in reading the dog’s body language to understand where the appropriate threshold is, maintaining criteria at the pace of the dog, understanding that sometimes three steps forward and one step back is OK, and creating systematic and succinct plans that allow for success.

Advocating for Separation Anxiety

Sedona is one of hundreds of success stories. My hope — my goal — is to be a megaphone and advocate for working with this behavior disorder so others will know it can be successfully resolved with detailed and consistent work.

It is time for us as behaviorists, veterinarians, trainers, and dog fanciers to stop shying away from or wrinkling our noses at separation anxiety. This behavior should no longer be the forgotten stepchild of the dog behavior world. Let’s embrace separation anxiety, change our own perceptions about its treatment, and promote a new view of addressing this huge issue that affects the welfare of so many dogs — and people — in our families and our shelters.


Malena DeMartini is the author of Treating Separation Anxiety in Dogs (Dogwise Publishing) and the founder of the Separation Anxiety Certification Program. Her upcoming lectures and conferences can be found on her website at www.malenademartini.com

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2 comments on “Separation Anxiety: The Forgotten Stepchild We Can No Longer Ignore
  1. I do boarding and day care in a brownstone apartment in Manhattan. And a year or so ago I had a client whose unneutered bichon frise had separation anxiety. So she boarded him with me during the day. The dog would typically howl and scream when I left him alone with the other dogs. He would also scream when he heard me coming inside the building. The wee-wee pads were always soaked through as well, indicating that he was experiencing a lot of stress. (Luckily he didn’t scream all day long, just when I would leave and come back.)

    Since I’m a dog trainer, using Natural Dog Training techniques, I suggested to the dog’s owner that we do two of the NDT Core Exercises with him: The Pushing Exercise and The Collecting Exercise.

    Pushing involves getting the dog to eat from one hand while you place the other hand cupped against the dog’s chest and pull the food hand away slightly so that the dog feels pressure against his chest, and is sort of off-balance while eating. (He’s not really off-balance because he’s pushing into your other hand.)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=krkBTsW1lz8

    Collecting involves holding a handful of treats and fluttering it around, as if your hand were a wounded bird. You move your hand pas the dog’s head, moving back and forth, from side to side, slowly lowering the hand until the dog starts to lie down. As he does you use the fluttering motion to get the dog to settle on his haunches in a very relaxed down position. You don’t touch the dog at all during this, though once he’s in the collected position, you let him eat out of your hand.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MatDaX-bap8&nohtml5=False

    We also taught the dog to speak on command, which is another of the 5 Core Exercises.

    We did these exercises for three days. THREE DAYS. And there was no more screaming when I left the apartment, no more screaming when I came home, and no more fully-soaked wee-wee pads.

    Desensitization is a long, painful process. It puts a tremendous amount of stress on the dog and owner. If you’re really interested in helping dogs with separation anxiety, I would recommend that you start using the 5 Core Exercises of Natural Dog Training.

    http://canineptsdblog.blogspot.com/2015/01/the-5-core-exercises.html

    Lee Charles Kelley

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